You say …
You say that love is nonsense....I tell you it is no such thing. For weeks and months it is a steady physical pain, an ache about the heart, never leaving one, by night or by day; a long strain on one's nerves like toothache or rheumatism, not intolerable at any one instant, but exhausting by its steady drain on the strength.
Each one takes it…
Madame, it is an old word and each one takes it new and wears it out himself. It is a word that fills with meaning as a bladder with air and the meaning goes out of it as quickly. It may be punctured as a bladder is punctured and patched and blown up again and if you have not had it does not exist for you. All people talk of it, but those who have had it are marked by it, and I would not wish to speak of it further since of all things it is the most ridiculous to talk of and only fools go through it many times.
Heart full of grace…
Everybody can be great... because anybody can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. you only need a heart full of grace. a soul generated by love.
To be love…
What I needed most was to love and to be loved, eager to be caught. Happily I wrapped those painful bonds around me; and sure enough, I would be lashed with the red-hot pokers or jealousy, by suspicions and fear, by burst of anger and quarrels.
The true lover…
The true lover of learning then must his earliest youth, as far as in him lies, desire all truth. . .He whose desires are drawn toward knowledge in every form will be absorbed in the pleasures of the soul, and will hardly feel bodily pleasures- -I mean, if he be a true philosopher and not a sham one. . .Then how can he who has the magnificence of mind and is the spectator of all times and all existence, think much of human life? He cannot. Or can such a one account death fearful? No indeed
The couple that fights…
The couple that fights the most is the one most in love... it shows they care enough to notice the other one screwed up and care enough to mention it to the person so they can fix it. When you stop fighting it means you stopped caring.
Shawna Waltemyer
single divorced mother of 2
I'm nothing special…
I am nothing special of this I am sure. I am just a common man with common thoughts. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, that has always been enough.
Tapping is a powerful tool for improving your life…
Tapping, also known as Emotional
Freedom Techniques, is a powerful tool
for improving your life on multiple
levels: mental, emotional, and physical.
It has been proven to effectively address
a range of issues. It’s also one of the
easiest and fastest practices to learn. You
can learn it in minutes, do it anywhere
and on virtually any issue, and often
experience immediate results.
Based on the principles of both ancient
acupressure and modern psychology, tapping
concentrates on specific meridian endpoints while
focusing on negative emotions or physical sensations.
Combined with spoken word, tapping helps calm the
nervous system to restore the balance of energy in the
body and rewire the brain to respond in healthy ways.
If altering the limiting pathways in your brain or
changing your biology isn’t enough of a motivation to
get you to tap, consider the negative effects of frequent
stress responses on your health. If not cleared through
tapping or another technique, the emotions connected to
disturbing events, experiences, or thoughts will
continue to trigger the stress response in you, perhaps
many times a day.
What’s Bothering You Most?
I find that the easiest way to start tapping is to focus on
what I call the MPI, or Most Pressing Issue. We all have
one; it’s the issue, problem, or challenge that dominates
our mental and emotional space in the present. If I
asked you, “What’s bothering you most right now?”
What would be your answer? What are you most
stressed or worried about?
It is important to be as specific as you can. Tapping on a
more general issue can certainly improve your mood
and make you feel better. But adding details that create
specificity—particulars that pinpoint an experience,
such as when it happened, who was involved, what you
felt in your body, etc.—draws the focus more clearly to
that particular issue. As a result, you’ll have a better
ability to rewire the brain’s response to it.
If you ever get stuck on the exact language, just focus
on the feeling. Or visualize a picture of what happened
(or is happening) and then describe it. Do whatever it
takes to get a clear memory or feeling, and that will do
the job.
Craft Your Setup Statement
Craft what’s called the “setup statement.” This brings
forward the energy of the MPI that you’re going to be
working on. Once you know your setup statement, you
can start tapping.
The basic setup statement goes like this:
Even though [fill in the blank with your MPI], I deeply
and completely accept myself.
So you might say, “Even though my back hurts, I deeply
and completely accept myself.”
Accepting Ourselves with the Problem
Along with the concern about focusing on the
“negative,” some people don’t feel comfortable with
saying they accept themselves in light of the problem
they’re tapping on. The problem simply seems too big,
important, or intolerable to allow for self-acceptance.
If you find you really, truly can’t make that statement—
it’s rare, but it happens—that’s OK. You can skip it and
just keep tapping on the issue without the setup
statement and then try again later. But for most of us,
it’s very important to say it, even if it feels hard.
When we accept ourselves as we are, we aren’t
“settling” or “keeping the problem in place.” We’re
showing love and compassion for ourselves—for our
feelings, our situation, and our history.
Choosing a Reminder Phrase
The reminder phrase is short—just a couple of words
that bring to mind your MPI. You will speak this phrase
out loud at each of the eight points in the sequence.
Examples of reminder phrases might be:
This fear I’m feeling…
This sadness…
This frustration…
This back pain…
You’re repeating the reminder phrase out loud to
remind yourself of the issue at each point. This
reminder phrase serves to keep your focus on the MPI
so you don’t get distracted.
Tapping through the Points
Once you have your reminder phrase, you are ready to
start tapping through the eight points of the EFT
sequence. These points are:
Eyebrow
Side of eye
Under eye
Under nose
Chin
Collarbone
Under arm
Top of head
Check In
You’ve now completed a round of tapping! First things
first: Take a deep breath. Feel your body and notice
what’s happening for you. Ask yourself: Did the issue
shift? What thoughts came up for me while tapping?
How do I feel on the 0-to-10 scale now?
Experience Tapping Now
My favorite part of the tapping process
remains its simplicity, how easy it is for
anyone to learn, put into practice, and
benefit from. Get started with these
eight simple steps.
1. Choose your “Most Pressing
Issue” (MPI) and devise a reminder phrase.
2. Rate the intensity of your MPI on a scale of 0–10,
(What level of distress does it bring up for you? A 10
would be the most distress you can imagine; a 0 rating
would mean you don’t feel any distress at all.)
3. Craft a setup statement. (Even though [fill in the blank
with your MPI], I deeply and completely accept myself.)
4. Tap on the karate chop point while repeating your
setup statement three times.
5. Tap through the eight points in the EFT sequence
while saying your reminder phrase out loud. Tap five to
seven times at each point.
Once you have finished tapping the eight points in the
sequence, take a deep breath.
Again rate the intensity of your issue using the 0-to-10
scale to check your progress.
Repeat as necessary to get the relief you desire.
Life is short…
Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are traveling the dark journey with us. Oh be swift to love, make haste to be kind.
The value…
The value of love will always be stronger than the
value of hate.. Any nation or group of nations which
employs hatred eventually is torn to pieces by
hatred...
Franklin D. Roosevelt
1882-1945, Thirty-second President of the USA
Do not think…
Do not think that love in order to be
genuine has to be extraordinary. What we
need is to love without getting tired. Be
faithful in small things because it is in
them that your strength lies.
Mother Teresa
1910-1997, Albanian-born Roman Catholic
Missionary
One would always…
One would always want to think of oneself as being on the side of love, ready to recognize it and wish it well --but, when confronted with it in others, one so often resented it, questioned its true nature, secretly dismissed the particular instance as folly or promiscuity. Was it merely jealousy, or a reluctance to admit so noble and enviable a sentiment in anyone but oneself?
Love is an expression…
Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem, a response to one's own values in the person of another. One gains a profoundly personal, selfish joy from the mere existence of the person one loves. It is one's own personal, selfish happiness that one seeks, earns, and derives from love.
Love is an…
Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem, a response to one's own values in the person of another. One gains a profoundly personal, selfish joy from the mere existence of the person one loves. It is one's own personal, selfish happiness that one seeks, earns, and derives from love.
True love
'True love' isn't so much a dreamy feeling that you have as it is an enduring commitment to give sacrificially --even, or perhaps especially, when you don't feel like it.
William R. Mattox, Jr.
Love is a force…
Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.
You know quite…
You know quite well, deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation...and that is called loving. Well, then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else.
Life's a walking…
Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, that struts and frets his hour upon the stage, and then is heard no more; it is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. - William Shakespeare
WAYS TO BREATHE LIFE INTO A RELATIONSHIP…
The turning of a year seems to beg us to reevaluate,
revitalize, and recommit. We resolve to do better and to
be better in almost every area of our lives. The only
problem is that when it comes to breathing new life into
an old relationship, most of us are not sure how to do
it.
But we used to know how! Try reinstating some
behaviors that came naturally at the beginning of the
relationship.
Be curious. Getting to know someone and sharing
ourselves is an intoxicating experience. When we first
meet, we evoke a childlike curiosity about the other,
wanting to know all about them—their beliefs, dreams,
and passions. The problem is that we tend to think these
things are static. So, once we ask, we do not often ask
again. However, we are all constantly changing, with
new ideas, thoughts, and experiences, and most of us
like to share them.
It’s my theory that this is why, in part, the “grass looks
greener” with someone else. When we meet someone
new (whether in person or online), they show interest
in our thoughts and feelings, while our loved one may
feel they already know everything about us.
I once saw a statistic that said families spend only 12 to
14 minutes a day in dialogue and 8 to 12 of those
minutes are spent on task-oriented discussion. That
leaves only 2 to 6 minutes a day for things like values,
feelings, dreams, visions, spirituality, and relationship
bonding.
You can rekindle the connection with a little mindful
inquiry. Ask about the other person's bucket list. Ask
about any changes in their favorites. Ask for opinions.
Remember to explore without judgment. You are seeking
to learn what is new with your partner, not what is
wrong with them.
Be present. Put the phone away. Just as you have
“office hours” when you can’t be interrupted, so you
should give your love life undivided attention daily ...
even if only for a short period of time. Listen. Share.
Laugh. Breathe. Notice.
Touch. Remember when you first met and you couldn’t
keep your hands off each other? I am not talking about
sex, necessarily (although that can certainly help!). I’m
talking about nurturing, loving touch. Hold hands, hug,
pause to rub the other’s shoulders, play footsie under
the table, run your fingers through your loved one's
hair, kiss regularly, reach out to caress without an
agenda, and gaze into each other’s eyes, touching each
other’s souls.
If your sexual encounters have gotten few and far
between, prioritize some time together. Neither of you
signed up for a roommate. You signed up for a
sweetheart. Even if there are physical reasons you can’t
be as intimate as you once were, you can certainly find
a way to share some sort of private, intimate loving
time together. This is what sets your “love life” apart
from your “life.”
Do something unexpected. One dictionary defines
romance as “a tendency of mind toward the wonderful
and mysterious, something belonging rather to fiction
than to everyday life.” Occasionally break the patterns of
daily life. Go outside and look at the stars, read a book
together instead of watching TV, enjoy a surprise date,
have a picnic in the backyard. Think outside the
“normal” box.
Be the initiator —of a hug, a kiss, a date, a walk, or an
evening spent gazing at the full moon, singing, dancing,
or talking about something fun. It isn’t important who
starts it—just be sure you aren’t the one who stops it!
An act…
An act of love that fails is just as much a part of the divine life as an act of love that succeeds, for love is measured by fullness, not by reception.
Harold Lokes
Self-love…
Self-love is often rather arrogant than blind; it does not hide our faults from ourselves, but persuades us that they escape the notice of others.
Love is a smoke…
Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs.
Being purged, a fire sparkling in lovers
eyes. Being vexed, a sea nourished with
lovers tears. What is it else? A madness
most discreet, a choking gall and a
preserving sweet.
William Shakespeare
1564-1616, British Poet, Playwright, Actor
Love…
"My heart is a red rose. When happy, it sparkles brillianly. When sad it bleeds and forms a dark puddle under it. When my heart dies, the soft fragile petals fall. So you might want to put your rose in a vase." Claire Charmont Love specialist
I offer myself to…
God, I offer myself to Thee, to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy power, Thy love and Thy way of life. May I do Thy will always.
The most ideal…
In endowing us with memory, nature has revealed to us a truth utterly unimaginable to the unreflective creation, the truth of immortality....The most ideal human passion is love, which is also the most absolute and animal and one of the most ephemeral.
I asked…
And then I asked him with my eyes to ask again yes and then he asked me would I yes and his heart was going like mad and yes I said yes I will yes.
James Joyce
The More connections…
The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.
Nowadays men can't…
Nowadays men cannot love seven night but they must have all their desires: that love may not endure by reason; for where they be soon accorded and hasty, heat soon it cooleth. Right so fareth love nowadays, soon hot soon cold: this is no stability. But the old love was not so.
Out of damp and…
Out of damp and gloomy days, out of solitude, out of loveless words directed at us, conclusions grow up in us like fungus: one morning they are there, we know not how, and they gaze upon us, morose and gray. Woe to the thinker who is not the gardener but only the soil of the plants that grow in him.
The soul mate…
The soul mate is what we aspire to and like to understand about us, is what we deem to be perfection, purity and endless regarding our own being.
Sorin Cerin
philosopher
I think about you…
I think about you in every moment and every image of you hurts me horribly. I want to feel every thought, every whisper you say in the deep silence of the eternity of you soul. To be able to cry in me, beside you, beside me in you, to be able to understand why our hearts beat, why we live among moments and not among eternities as if it were different. To be able to understand every smile which breaks in my just like a wave, which finally breaks against the cliff of my eternity through the blood of my ancestors as my misconducts break in your eternity and that of your ancestors. And they want to tell you how much I love you, how much I adore you in this vain world. I know we will never be able to look in the eyes, but only in the hearts. I know they beat against the infinite precisely because they beat even though we both want the infinite and its truth. Any beat opposes the infinite because it measures an infinity, even if it is finite. And then?
Oh, life…
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song, A medley of extemporanea; And love is a thing that can never go wrong; And I am Marie of Roumania.
Dorothy Rothschild Parker
I would not miss…
I would not miss your face, your neck, your hands, your limbs, your bosom and certain other of your charms. Indeed, not to become boring by naming them all, I could do without you, Chloe, altogether.
The soul…
The soul mate is what we aspire to and like to understand about us, is what we deem to be perfection, purity and endless regarding our own being.
We were giver…
We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find.
I never add up…
I never add up. I only subtract from the total dying... . . . It is not the magnitude of our actions but the amount of love that is put into them that matters.
Mother Teresa
Love is…
Love is never wanting to lose faith, never wanting to give up, and never truly moving on. Love is knowing and praying in the deepest part of what's left of your heart that they feel the same.
I know a love…
I know a love may be revived which absence, inconstancy, or even infidelity has extinguished, but there is no returning from a dTgovt given by satiety.
Lady Mary Wortley Montagu
1689-1762, British Society Figure, Letter Writer
a love, when he is admitted to…
A lover, when he is admitted to cards, ought to be solemnly silent, and observe the motions of his mistress. He must laugh when she laughs, sigh when she sighs. In short, he should be the shadow of her mind. A lady, in the presence of her lover, should never want a looking-glass; as a beau, in the presence of his looking-glass, never wants a mistress.
Yes to Imagine and Giving Peace a Chance…
Dr. Ron Alexander sat listening to the record company
executives and staff he’d been hired to help. They’d
sought him out as a mindfulness expert and corporate
consultant to help them improve marketing and sales.
One major artist―a “diva” who shall remain
unnamed―had followed her first two highly successful
records with a third CD that had, so far, failed
miserably. What could they do to turn things around?
As people made suggestions, Alexander took notes. The
word no was used 76 times in response to a proposed
plan. Yes―or any other encouraging word? Eleven
times. “So over the next few weeks,” he told me, “we
focused on what it would be like if, before anyone
opened their mouth to respond, they went into a ‘yes
state’ to engage what I call the open mind, a state of
open possibilities.”
Yes Leads to Creativity and Problem Solving ~
Alexander, the author of Wise Mind, Open Mind , saw a
big shift at the record company: From the top down,
meetings had far less discord. “No is a constrictor,” he
says. Ideas about how to turn the artist around began to
flow, and soon, the majority of the responses were yes
or “why not?” Divas don’t get on buses to go cross-
country announcing call numbers on AM radio stations,
the executives had protested weeks earlier to one
unusual idea. By the end of Alexander’s process, this
diva did. Within weeks, she’d sold close to a million
CDs.
I’m not a record company executive (or a diva). But a
few weeks ago I decided to count how often over several
days my first instinct was to respond with some form of
no. There were more than 76. A lot more. I said,
“Probably not” to my 15-year-old’s idea that she and her
friend could save their money for a year to buy a white
Mercedes (seriously?), and no to her proposal that they
take a bus trip to Las Vegas (seriously?). I said no to the
idea of sitting down and playing the piano (I’ll sound
bad; I’ll be judged; I’ll get frustrated); no to my
husband’s that suggestion we grocery shop together
(we’ll get more done if we divide and conquer), and no
to the idea of joining a book club for parents of teens
(I’m not a joiner; I don’t want to talk about my
daughter’s “issues” with strangers). Thinking I was
being helpful, I said, “Don’t” when my son professed to
feeling guilty about something he hadn’t even been
responsible for causing. When I was done counting, I
was surprised that I, a “positive” person, was so, well,
negative. Turns out, there are a lot of ways to say no.
And a lot more reasons to say yes.
Saying Yes to Joining~
Dr. Robert Bilder is a professor of psychiatry and
biobehavioral sciences at the University of California,
Los Angeles UCLA and holds a chair in creativity
research. “Much of saying yes,” Bilder says, “is saying
yes to another person. By acknowledging that you are
going along with a plan initiated by someone else, you
are strengthening or creating a bond with them.” The
same neural circuits are engaged when we join groups,
Bilder says, as when we fall in love. Oxytocin levels
surge, which, because that makes you feel so good, has
an addictive quality. When you say yes to another
person, you’re engaging this reward circuit, making it
more likely that the next time you’re asked to join
someone, you’ll say yes.
Yes Broadens Your Outlook ― Literally~
At UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center,
researchers study the neurobiology of positive
emotions. Christine Carter, a sociologist there, has
written about bringing up happy kids in her book
Raising Happiness . “Your brain,” she says, “operates in
a really different way when you perceive resistance or
are resisting. When you’re positive or expecting a yes,
your field of vision is actually larger.”
“When you are anxious, or perceive a threat (which
brings about an extreme state of resistance),” says
Carter, “your vision needs to narrow in order to focus.”
When you’re not in this state of anxious resistance,
“you’re able to take in more stimulus across the board,
versus only being able to see what is right in front of
you.”
Saying Yes to Adventure Re-creates Your Brain~
Dawna Markova, a writer and inspirational speaker,
works in myriad ways to help people “learn with
passion and live on purpose,” including encouraging
people to test themselves in outdoor adventures. She
may be best known for a poem she wrote on the night of
her father’s death.
“I will not die an unlived life,” it begins. “I will not live
in fear of falling, or catching fire.”
Fear―of falling, or making a fool of yourself―is a big
reason to say no to adventure. But neuroscientists know
that when you expose yourself to new
experiences―from learning to fly-fish to climbing giant
trees―your brain releases noradrenaline and dopamine,
and the exertion brings on endorphins. This makes you
feel alert and better able to enjoy that moment and the
ones that follow. And, when you take a flying leap into
uncertainty (perhaps using a harness in the case of
high-flying leaps), you train your brain to believe that
you can. Your experiences literally re-create you.
Yes Is Good for Your Relationship~
The simplest way to make relationships work, says Dr.
John Gottman, considered the country’s foremost
researcher into marriage, is to say yes as often as you
can without sacrificing an important part of yourself in
the process. (Gottman makes it clear that agreement is
not the same as compliance, becoming who someone
else wants you to be). In fact, he has even come up with
a formula: For every no or negative thing you say, say
yes or something positive five times. Yes, that’s a good
idea. Yes, I can help you. Yes, I can make time this
afternoon.
And the “emotional coaching” we so often do to
alleviate our partner’s or child’s suffering? Don’t tell
someone not to feel something, as I did with my son,
says Carter. Just encourage them to talk to you. Then
listen.
Getting to Yes~
When you say no a lot, your brain gets in the habit,
literally paving more neural pathways and raising the
speed limit on your knee-jerk “No!” response. Luckily,
as brain scientists have realized, we can rewire our
brains.
We have knee-jerk responses, Carter says, because it’s
efficient. Our decisions come from two parts of the
brain: a quick, instinctive reaction from the basal
ganglia and the deliberate, considered response from
our prefrontal cortex, which involves an energy-
intensive process. Parenting, for instance, would be “too
darn hard if you had to constantly weigh every decision
and construct it from your prefrontal cortex.” The trick
is changing what those efficient, low-energy knee-jerk
responses are. With some practice, it can become just as
instinctive to say maybe as it is to say no.
Always Yes?~
In the end, Markova says, what’s important is not so
much the yes as the willingness to say it. It’s the pause.
If your gut, your heart, or your head (all of which, by
the way, are surrounded by neural circuitry) is
screaming no , you might say merely say, “I don’t know.
I’ll get back to you.”
Just being willing to say yes means you’ve removed the
barriers to new people, experiences, and feelings. And
after the pause? Sometimes you say no. If you’re
female, there’s a good chance that right about now
you’re thinking, but my problem is saying yes too much
. . . yes to driving teens around town, yes to
volunteering for anything people ask me to do, yes to
taking on far more than my share of household chores.
No, Markova says, can be just as much as an affirmation
of self as yes.
“Inside of yes,” says Ron Alexander, “You have to have
the capacity to set boundaries, to have brakes. No is an
essential part of a yes way of thinking. No, I don’t want
to do that. No, I don’t like the way you’re
communicating with me. It does lead to a yes. It leads to
a woman saying yes to her self-esteem.”
Me? I said yes when my husband asked about grocery
shopping, which turned into a funny date. I made new
friends at the book club and learned I’m not the only
one worried about my kid.
To my daughter’s plan to buy a white Mercedes, I said,
“Why not?” To my surprise, this kid, who has “lacked
initiative,” signed up for an online driving course,
started studying for her permit, and lined up babysitting
gigs to start saving money. All I did was pause and
listen. And not say no.
The piano? I sound bad. I don’t care. It feels good to
play music again.
But I still said no to the bus trip to Las Vegas. For now
Every day, take a mindful pause. It’s like taking your
pulse. During this pause, identify three things:
thoughts, feelings, and current beliefs. With each one,
ask: Are they positive, neutral, or negative?
Take a negative belief, and pose an antidote. For
example: I don’t believe I can pass this test. A positive
antidote would be I am fully capable of passing this test.
You may have determined, in your mindful pause, I feel
anxious about this test.
If your body is in a state of anxiety, he says, “You have
to shift your body’s physiology.” The quickest way to do
that? Get on the yoga mat, take a walk, go surfing. “The
physical exercise will shift the neurons in your brain,”
says Alexander, and enable you to shift from no (I can’t)
to yes (I’m capable).
Great Yeses of History
Yes to Imagine and Giving Peace a Chance~
John Lennon strolled into Yoko Ono’s art studio in 1966
and encountered a ladder. A sign at the bottom invited
“Step Up!” He climbed, expecting the words at the top to
read “Piss off!” Instead, he read YES. It was, he said, like
the sun coming out. He credited it with an
extraordinary shift inside himself, personally and
musically.
Yes to Nonviolence~
As the leader of Indian nationalism in the 1930s and
’40s, Mahatma Gandhi was convinced he could gain
independence for his country without firing a bullet.
How, Lord Mountbatten asked, did Gandhi expect the
British to depart? “I expect you will just walk out,” he
told the viceroy, who found the idea inconceivable.
Gandhi simply did not see the no, and in the end, the
British left peacefully and an international movement
for nonviolent protest was born.
When No Means Yes~
In a classic case of using no to affirm herself and half
the population of her country, Susan B. Anthony said
no: women will no longer accept having no rights.
Despite having a great fear of public speaking, she
stepped into a yes state and, with Elizabeth Cady
Stanton, traversed the country giving speeches and
appealing to the government to treat men and women
equally. In 1869, she founded the National Women’s
Suffrage Association, and went on to say, “Yes, I will
vote,” in November 1872, for which she was arrested
and convicted by a jury that had been instructed by the
judge to return a guilty verdict. Though she was not
imprisoned, she was ordered to pay a fine of $100, to
which she said no (the fine remained unpaid for the rest
of her life).
Love is as much of…
Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never... never forget it.
A bizarre…
A bizarre sensation pervades a relationship of pretense. No truth seems true. A simple morning's greeting and response appear loaded with innuendo and fraught with implications. Each nicety becomes more sterile and each withdrawal more permanent.
Tis said of love…
'Tis said of love that it sometimes goes, sometimes flies; runs with one, walks gravely with another; turns a third into ice, and sets a fourth in a flame: it wounds one, another it kills: like lightning it begins and ends in the same moment: it makes that fort yield at night which it besieged but in the morning; for there is no force able to resist it.
Human love…
Human Love... It is that extra creation that stands hurt and baffled at the place of death. Being human, wanting children and sunlight and breath to go on, forever.
Love, by its…
Love, by its very nature, is unworldly, and it is for this reason rather than its rarity that it is not only apolitical but anti-political, perhaps the most powerful of all anti-political human forces.
Do not cry,…
Do not cry, because we are destiny, because we are everything that can be above this world. And now, the angel of my life, please let me fly so that I can fulfil the vanity of this world, of this dream, of this nightmare that eternally took you from me. I didn’t thought you will come now at this age and time of this Illusion of Life, but between these bars I tell you how much I love you and do not ever doubt me. I will be yours in every moment of this life, which I give to you. .
Love feels…
Love feels no burden, regards not labors, strives toward more than it attains, argues not of impossibility, since it believes that it may and can do all things. Therefore it avails for all things, and fulfils and accomplishes much where one not a lover falls and lies helpless.
I do not think that…
I do not think that what is called Love at first sight is so great an absurdity as it is sometimes imagined to be. We generally make up our minds beforehand to the sort of person we should like, grave or gay, black, brown, or fair; with golden tresses or raven locks; -- and when we meet with a complete example of the qualities we admire, the bargain is soon struck.
William Hazlitt
1778-1830, British Essayist
Dream Exit Induced Lucid Dreams …
The Dream Exit Induced Lucid Dream (DEILD or dream re-entry) is a condensed version of the
WILD technique, allowing you to slip into a lucid dream from a waking state. Under the right
conditions, it's a wonderfully effortless way to become lucid.
Once you get to know the DEILD technique, you'll be able to use it multiple times per night
in what is also called dream chaining . You can also use it to deliberately re-enter a great
dream (lucid or non-lucid) if you prematurely wake up.
How to Have a DEILD
If you're a light sleeper (you wake up at various times during the night) then DEILDs may
come very naturally to you. If you're a heavy sleeper, you might need the aid of an alarm
clock or lucid dreaming app (like the Singularity Experience ) which is designed to
momentarily wake you from REM sleep...
1. A Momentary Waking
The ideal conditions for a Dream Exit Induced Lucid Dream occur after 4-6 hours of sleep,
when your REM cycles are starting to become longer. You must briefly wake up from a dream
in order to implement the DEILD technique. If you find this happens naturally - great. If not,
use an alarm as mentioned above. The alarm should be disruptive enough to rouse you from
the dream state, but not enough to wake you fully. It should also shut itself off as soon as
you are partially woken.
Failing that, allow your adorable Shetland Sheepdog to sleep on the bed with you and
disturb you in the night. Works for me :)
2. Stay Still and Visualize
As your mind straddles the border between a dream and wakefulness, keep your body
absolutely still. Any movement now will trigger the firing of motor neurons in your brain and
transfer your full consciousness to the waking world. Any sense of sleep paralysis will also
completely wear off. (This is why you don't want to have to move in order to shut off your
alarm.)
With your body unmoving, keep your eyes closed (or immediately close them) and recall the
dream you were just in. Place yourself back in the exact same moment you were in before
you woke up. Sometimes this happens automatically and the DEILD becomes effortless. If
not, try to mentally recapture that dream in as much detail as possible. Recall the sights,
sounds, emotions and tactile sensations of the dream. If you find this alien, see these tips
on How to Visualize with all the senses.
3. Dream Re-Entry
This part is automatic. If you performed the last two steps accurately enough, your brain will
re-create the dream and send your awareness back in - only this time, you'll be fully lucid.
Like Wake Induced Lucid Dreams, DEILDs are highly vivid because you enter the dream with a
heightened sense of awareness carried over from the waking state. Once you "sink" or "pop"
into the dream, remind yourself that you're dreaming and perform a reality check for good
measure.
The time between waking up and re-entering your dream lucidly can be as little as a few
seconds. If you find you are lying in bed for several minutes, then the moment is almost
certainly gone. But don't worry - you can still have a lucid dream at this point by following
the steps outlined in How to Have a Wake Induced Lucid Dream.
Let See the my world
Current Population of India in 2013 is estimated to be 1.27 billion.
Total Male Population in India 655,875,026 (655.8 million)
Total Female Population in India 614,397,079 (614.4 million)
Sex Ratio 940 females per 1,000 males
So, Friends whats your think… ?
A Ghost in Every Room: An Essay on Love and Pain…
Here I sit. A lonely shell of a man. A mere shadow of my former self in the days since you
walked out the front door of our house and out of my life forever.
Why you left, God only knows. But since I don't believe in God, or any other all-powerful deity
for that matter, I feel as though the secret of your leaving is cruelly inaccessible to me.
Searching for answers is an exercise in romantic futility, and now I'm left with only the pain of
the unknown residing deep inside my scarred heart. A pain that may never go away.
The difficult truth is that, while you packed your things and left without a word, your presence
somehow remains in every inch of this place you once called home. No matter how hard I try, I
cannot escape the bittersweet memories that have ruthlessly tattooed themselves on both the
walls of this once-warm abode and those that have now closed off my heart.
As I open my eyes each morning, I cast my half-conscious gaze over to the pillow on which
your beautiful face used to rest. In that moment, I am transported back to that perfect night
when you woke me with a kiss and whispered that you loved me "more than the sky." My mind
is equally bombarded by the memory of the lazy morning last October when we hit the snooze
button and made love with an intensity of a million raging forest fires. Perhaps most clearly,
though, I think about the morning after our house-warming party when you pissed all over our
new 1,000-thread-count sheets because I kept goading you into drinking glass after glass of
that shitty boxed wine Vince's illiterate girlfriend bought at ALDI. That memory will remain with
me always, just as the faded yellow stains will remain embedded in the quality cotton fibers of
those sheets.
The bathroom is filled with an entirely different kind of pain. A pain for every sense the good
Lord has bestowed upon man. As I brush my teeth with your toothpaste, I taste the very same
flavor that would accompany your kisses each morning before you left for work. I smell the
nearly empty bottle of shampoo you so carelessly abandoned and am captivated by the scent
that permeated your every hair. And I come to tears at the very sight of the toilet where you
sat for two straight hours after I convinced you to order the lamb curry at the Indian Palace on
Calvert St., even though I had read a review in the Tribune that specifically said to steer clear
of the lamb curry at the Indian Palace on Calvert St. I would sacrifice each of my other senses
just to have the sounds and smells of those two hours back.
Walking into the kitchen finds me crying tears of both unrivaled joy and excruciating pain. On
the one hand, I laugh uncontrollably whenever I think back to those moments when you'd
quizzically look in the refrigerator for something to eat, only to furrow your brow,
melodramatically close the door, and suggest we order take-out. On the other, I ache with the
pain of a thousand stabbing daggers at the memory of you losing two-and-a-half fingers in
the garbage disposal after I lied about my hands being too fat to reach down the drain to
retrieve a spoon I had dropped. The doctor may have said you'd never play the piano
professionally again, but I think we would both agree that your subsequent work at the
Culver's drive-thru was an art in its own right.
In a million years, I could not adequately describe to you the agony that accompanies each
visit to our guest bedroom. After all, this was the room in which you put so much of your time
and energy when we first moved in together. Whether it was meticulously painting the walls
and trim the perfect complimentary colors, sanding and finishing the original hardwood floors
to a showroom shine, or buying all new bedding for the guest bed after you caught me having
that really messy threesome with your sister and her boyfriend during their Christmas visit,
you never gave up on that room. If only you hadn't given up so easily on the love that once
bound us together.
Last but not least, the living room remains the space that most vividly conjures up memories
of the seemingly unquenchable thirst for love that we shared. I'll never completely understand
why, but the moment we curled up on that couch and turned on the television, our biggest
problems seemed to disappear without a trace. The fight we had after I called your boss a
"mustached anus" at the company picnic? Over as soon as the Law and Order theme song
started. The tantrum you threw when I threatened to tell your mom about your addiction to
diet pills in college if you ever bought generic paper towels again? Nothing a little Parks and
Recreation couldn't cure. Perhaps I was naive to believe that one comfortable couch and a 46"
Samsung television had all the answers. In the end, I guess your love for me, like the channels
on a television, were bound to change.
Reliving our seemingly charmed existence in each room of this house, I realize that I may
never fully understand what caused you to abandon me to my sorrows. In the end, perhaps I
will be better off living in the infinite mystery of our love's conclusion. Whatever the case may
be, please know this. No matter how many transgender Craigslist prostitutes I bring home, my
love for you will live on in every room of this house long after I've refused to pay them for
services rendered.
Forgive Yourself For Not Knowing Better…
We all make mistakes, we all act badly at sometime or another,
non of us are perfect. None of us can see clearly the
consequence of every action. Sometimes things happen contrary
to what we think will happen.
People do not always act the way you expect, you could kick a
man and expect retaliation, you would be surprised if he smiled
at you instead. But it has been known to happen. You could buy
a friend flowers, expecting a nice response, and instead you get
them thrown back at you, that has been known to happen.
With hindsight most people would probably act differently than
they do, if people knew more they would act accordingly. For
this reason, you must forgive yourself for not knowing better,
most of your problems come from a position where you lack
understanding, if you had understanding, you would more than
likely deal with the problem more easily.
You must stop beating yourself up if things go wrong, you are
not perfect, nor is the next man, you will learn from the
experience and that in time will make you a better person, more
able to deal with different circumstances.
So do a little forgiving, forgive those around you who make
mistakes and forgive yourself. The world will become a brighter
place if you just learned to forgive those who knew no better
under the circumstances.
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